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The Barbie Movie and What It Taught Me About My Teen

Uncategorized Aug 20, 2023

On a recent family vacation with my entire family of in-laws, I found myself in a situation that brought up a huge childhood fear. The fear of being left out and shamed for my choice to go against the grain.

Only I wasn’t the one going in her own direction, it was my daughter.

We spent the week out in the country hiking, kayaking, fishing, and enjoying the fresh mountain air. None of these activities are my child’s passion but she was going with the flow and being remarkably engaged.

The weather had been amazingly beautiful and we were only faced with one rainy day. The group decided this would be a movie day. I was thrilled for my teen cinephile. She loves film! We were finally going to be stepping into her world for a change.

As soon as she heard the news her face lit up.

She was so excited to finally have a chance for the much awaited viewing of Barbie. She was amped! Stoked! Hyped! It’s hard to find a word that describes just how she felt about this opportunity...

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A letter to new mothers (and a good reminder for all moms)

Uncategorized Jul 01, 2023

Photo: 20 year old me with my infant. I'm smiling but I am SO tired.  


First, I want to say — You are doing a really good job!

I see the deep love and connection you have with your child and it is beautiful. I truly believe your child chose you as their mother along with everything your brave choice to be a mother brings with it. Your dedication to your sweet family is going to bring you so much joy and many years of adventure, happiness, fun, and laughter.

These early months are hard. Even harder with all the choices, advice, and information currently available to sift through when trying to find your unique solutions to the everyday mysteries of meeting a baby’s needs.

When I say unique, I mean it. The mothering you provide will be nothing like the way that I mother, or the way your sister, mother, friends, or internet moms mother. All we can do is share our stories as evidence to the unique struggles we faced and the solutions we...

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How I got my kid to school on time

Uncategorized Mar 10, 2023

(from an email I sent on 2/16/23)

The house was filled with the smell of toast and coffee, the lunches were packed, and my son had his shoes on ready to go to school.

I was standing at the bottom of the stairs covering my ears with tears streaming down my face.

My daughter was in her room screaming and crying like a banshee ripping off her clothes. This was the third outfit I had tried to put her in. We were going to be late again…

This was the scene in our house almost every morning of my daughter’s kindergarten year. We could not get through one morning without screaming, tears, and worst of all being late to school.

I knew there had to be a better way but I couldn’t seem to catch a break. Nothing worked: I set a timer, picked out the clothes the night before, bribed her with getting an ice cream after school…

The advice I was given by family members, well-meaning friends, or books written by experts with PHDs just didn’t seem to pan out.

All I...

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My Commitment to Always Tell My Children the Truth

Uncategorized Dec 20, 2022

I found out I was pregnant with my first child on my 20th birthday.  That day I made a commitment to my unborn son to always tell the truth.  You may be wondering why I would do this.  Why make such an unrealistic promise?  

From an early age I observed harm and damage caused by lies.  Even small, “white” lies seemed to have devastating consequences.  Over time I found that the lies I told kept my relationships distant and cold, when what I truly long for is connection and warmth.  My relationship to my now grown children is the most important relationship in my life and creating trust, safety, and connection with them has been a top priority for me from day one. 

As a parent, the temptation to protect my child’s feelings when something disappointing happens or I am worried they might throw a fit, yell, cry, or freak out is strong.  Imagine this:  I see that my child has left a half eaten cupcake on the table and I...

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My Promise to Never Forget

Uncategorized Dec 14, 2022

When I was in middle school, I made a promise to myself to never forget what it felt like to be a kid. I remember adults telling me that how I was feeling and what I thought wasn’t important. They said it would all pass. They said one day I’d learn that all this “middle school stuff” wouldn’t matter in the bigger picture of my life. I swore at that early age that I would do things differently than my parents.

Because it did matter. It mattered a lot to me. It felt like everything, not “nothing”. And those experiences still impact my life in big and small ways. That promise I made to myself has stuck with me and has inspired me to try new ways of parenting in an attempt to be a different kind of adult.

It’s been many years since I was in middle school. I’ve traveled a long journey, raising two of my own children through their experiences of the middle school years. I didn’t have any mentors or positive examples to...

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